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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued in a relationship, and to find ways to get free of abuse.

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He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?

You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That?you will learn about:

- The early warning signs of abuse

- The nature of abusive thinking

- Myths about abusers

- Ten abusive personality types

- The role of drugs and alcohol

- What you can fix, and what you can't

- And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

"This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives."—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

Audience
adult
Length
long · 408 pages

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