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When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Presenthelps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs.

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Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to:

* Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships—and why this is a gift

* Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships

* Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business

* Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy

Audience
adult
Length
medium · 224 pages

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